Who Will Be MY Nick Jonas?

Dear Priyanka Chopra,

My heartfelt congratulations to you and Nick for tying the knot. If anyone had said that my all-time favorite bollywood actress would end up meeting and falling in love with Nick Jonas, from the other side of -llywood, I would have found it impossible to picture in my mind. But oh well! That is just the bitterly-realistic,overly- pessimistic black-and-white me!I have never been a dreamer! My mind has always thought that I was probably going to end up marrying a towny from my own town, a distant cousin fifth removed or someone I had always passed by while going to the market but just did not notice.

Dear Priyanka,is it the clear and strong lines on your palm( which I was only too happy to notice in one of your wedding photos) that gave you this marvelous hunk for a husband?Or perhaps your rasi and navamsa astrology charts destined you with a joyous royal wedding?

I have developed a curiousity for finding out about people’s destinies. All these mysteries surrounding the person we will marry or the one true love of our life intrigue me! Who decides to bring certain people in our lives? There is so much philosophy on the same subject but I have always wanted to predict the unknown.

Back at home, the elders say that husbands are already chosen for us since the day we were born; that whoever we are destined to marry will absolutely end up marrying us. While others believe that 100% percent of the time, the ones we love don’t end up marrying us for some reason; we end up marrying someone we never expected to in the first place! The latter rings true for the obvious reason that my dad came from one totally different world and met my mum in a completely bizarre and unexpected way. Had my mum told anyone she would end up marrying my dad, people,including my critically realistic self,would have thought she was bananas!

Therefore,my question is, where is my Nick Jonas? And how do I know if I will marry a Nick Jonas int he first place or my neighbor across the street instead?

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Who Will Be MY Nick Jonas?

Dear Priyanka Chopra,

My heartfelt congratulations to you and Nick for tying the knot. If anyone had said that my all-time favorite bollywood actress would end up meeting and falling in love with Nick Jonas, from the other side of -llywood, I would have found it impossible to picture in my mind. But oh well! That is just the bitterly-realistic,overly- pessimistic black-and-white me!I have never been a dreamer! My mind has always thought that I was probably going to end up marrying a towny from my own town, a distant cousin fifth removed or someone I had always passed by while going to the market but just did not notice.

Dear Priyanka,is it the clear and strong lines on your palm( which I was only too happy to notice in one of your wedding photos) that gave you this marvelous hunk for a husband?Or perhaps your rasi and navamsa astrology charts destined you with a joyous royal wedding?

I have developed a curiousity for finding out about people’s destinies. All these mysteries surrounding the person we will marry or the one true love of our life intrigue me! Who decides to bring certain people in our lives? There is so much philosophy on the same subject but I have always wanted to predict the unknown.

Back at home, the elders say that husbands are already chosen for us since the day we were born; that whoever we are destined to marry will absolutely end up marrying us. While others believe that 100% percent of the time, the ones we love don’t end up marrying us for some reason; we end up marrying someone we never expected to in the first place! The latter rings true for the obvious reason that my dad came from one totally different world and met my mum in a completely bizarre and unexpected way. Had my mum told anyone she would end up marrying my dad, people,including my critically realistic self,would have thought she was bananas!

Therefore,my question is, where is my Nick Jonas? And how do I know if I will marry a Nick Jonas int he first place or my neighbor across the street instead?

Everything you do to others, is a debt to be paid at a later date

It is so easy to forget.

Yes,we forget all the things we did. Especially the bad things. But guess who never forgets? Karma!

You are crying one rainy night, drenching your pillow with your tears, secretly sobbing into it so no one notices you? You wonder what you might have done to deserve such pain?The heartbreak is too much such that you think perhaps in your past life you must have committed a crime too heinous to deserve such treatment from someone you love unconditionally? That’s Karma for you, for me, and for all of us.

Sometimes I feel like when God cast Adam to Earth from heaven, he needed to make sure the generations of human beings Adam and Eve were going to create, would not screw each other up! And if they ever did, Karma was created so that accountability our actions was guaranteed. That is how the saying ,”What goes around comes around” came about. In God’s defence, we needed Karma to ensure that we did not step on each other’s toes and got away with it; to keep us watchful of our behaviour and how it affected others around us, Karma was a must have.

There are two types of Karma. One that is instant and happens every time you f**** someone up who did not deserve it,and the other one transcends beyond into the next life time and the next one after that. However, since we live in the today and now, I am more interested in the Instant Karma.

Instant Karma is the staunchest of teachers out there. She will punish you severely. She is ever watchful of every minute thing you ever do. She keeps a record of your actions and she serves them back to you one shovel-ful at a time. She does not care that you will choke on all that she serves you, she will not wipe your mouth or put a bib on you. She will feed you until you can’t take it anymore, until you realize you could never ever put anyone through that pain ever again, because you know it all too well!

Always be mindful of your actions. Never think excuses of your current circumstances justify how you treat other’s. You made someone cry all night, you will cry all night as well. It does not have to be tomorrow, or the day after. It will happen when you least expect; when you never saw it coming. Let us mind our actions because Karma is a b****

“Mr. Right Now”As I wait for Mr. Right

In all romantic relationships we must distinguish whether the person we are with is the one we have been waiting for our entire lives or just another frog we have to kiss through a throng of frogs in Frogsville Island.

Sometimes it feels like the men we date are relentlessly just for right now. It leaves us wondering, “where the heck is our Mr. Right?”, ” How much more frog-mono( mono, caused by kissing all those frogs) should we as dating women have to endure before we finally find our perfect soulmate?”.

Life makes us choose over and over again between sheer solitude, which is the result of being single forever, and settling for Mr. Right Now. This is the dilemma single women all over the world are faced with.

Riddle Riddle,the more you seek it , the further it runs from you

I have made an outstanding realization. The more I chase after and worry over my present life or my future, the worse things become. I even lose sleep. I find myself constantly disappointed such that I begin to feel hopeless and depressed.

The secret to a happy, fulfilled life is to strive for a higher meaning, to transcend human needs. Reach for things beyond the physical. I know to some of you I might be sounding like those monks who dedicated their lives to meditation and solitude but on the contrary, I am advocating for a harmonius balance between excessive worry over worldly things and complete and utter abstinance from interacting with the physical world. I tell you today that there are things in life which you cannot see or touch that you absolutely need in order for you to be truly happy. When you realize this, life will make so much sense to you personally.So, where do we begin?

Faith. Start looking for something that makes you believe. If soldiers did not have faith in their cause, they would never have been able to give their all in order to defend their nations. If faith was inconsequential, why is a statement under oath in a court of law more credible than an affirmation in lieu of oath?

If you build on your faith, whatever it may be, you will find that life is easier, makes more sense and you will find that the things you need come to you without your having to fight for them. If you choose to only please God, and nothing or no one else, you will find that the things you want in life come to you in bulk. It makes me recall something I have heard about faith, that we are in this world to worship God. Now it all makes sense. This is the grander philosophy of life the realization of which will make you understand life and its purpose. If we choose to forsake this enlightening fact, we only do so at our own detriment. Life never existed to be its own purpose. Life existed so we can pursue another more significant and lasting ambition. Live your life, pursue your goals, but remember in the back of your mind that all your actions, ambitions, if they are pursued within the grand objective of worshipping God and putting faith first, then the world will come to you. You will find that all major religions in one way or another advocate for awareness of things beyond the physical and while some go way into extremes through total separation from worldly life, there is a healthy balance found in Islam which I have found to be immensely helpful in my life. Islam means submission to the will of God. What that means to me, is that if I stop focusing on the whys and how tos of life, I would attain peace of mind and my heart would be content with my life. This way, I live in hope, hope that my life will run according to Gods plan for me. And He doesnt let down those who hope in Him.

The more you make this world your priority, the more it evades you. However, if you make faith in God and pleasing him your ultimate goal in life, the world will come to you in a lasting, continuous flow of blessings and wishes come true.

The Launch of the First Plastic Boat Ever

I feel like we are making history in this journey of Plastic Revolution.

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Today, I am proud to say that Lamu Old Town, my hometown, gets on the news for something ingenious and revolutionary: the making of the first plastic boat ever!

I am on the ground, witnessing the making of history in the Plastic Revolution,among throngs of reporters, foreigners and local people of Lamu. It is indeed a sight to behold! The boat builder, my uncle, Ali Abdalla Skanda comes from a family of “Firsts”: his late father, Abdalla Skanda was the first person to build carved furniture in his workshop in Lamu. Therefore, as they say the apple does not fall far from the tree, his son, follows in his steps by making a first also, in the advent of Plastic Revolution!

Meet the guy behind this incredible achievement!

Twenty tonnes of plastic rubbish floating in the Indian Ocean was collected to build this boat!Amazing right?

Toxic People Never Change

When we hear about the word toxic our minds are more likely to shift to an image of scary industrial waste pouring into a lake or weird purple stained chicken with headlines “Toxic chicken causes cancer”. Well, I hate to burst your toxic bubble of sorts by telling you now that a certain someone in your life can be toxic for you. They won’t cause you cancer, they will definitely take you to therapy though- and we both know shrinks do not accept insurance!

When someone is toxic they are controlling, overbearing, manipulative and moody.

You never know which side of them you are dealing with and what not to say to upset them. What is worse is that these people somehow are revered and overly respected and feared by others such that instead of any possible change in behavior in future, these people are guaranteed to remain the same, condescending, mean monsters but only worse.

You can smell a toxic person from miles away by seeing these signs:

1. They are feared and their word is the law.

2. They make everyone submit to their will by sheer force or through incessant debate.

3. They reward “dutiful” minions with gifts and love.

4. They hate a difference in opinion.

5. They will abuse you and then play the victim.

6. They constantly need to have the last word.

7.They will manipulate you to feel guilty for standing up for yourself.

8. They will bully you to the ends of the earth about anything really, from the way you walk to the way you chew.

9. They appear overly nice in the beginning to trap you into the illusion that they deserve your obedience at any and all times.

It is trickier and much more frustrating when these people are your family. They will poison you with their behavior for life and scar you in the deepest corners of your being. These people will not only damage your self esteem and sense of self worth, they will come out of this experience as the good guys and you will be alienated and exiled from your own family because of them. These people remain the same gross creatures even after old age and they will become worse, and use their old age as an excuse to subdue and destroy your essence of happiness and if you stand up to them, you will be labeled the genie for handling a frail old woman with heart conditions, with utter inconsideration. Well dear old bully monster of the millenia of the world, just die already !

Bye Bye Ice, Welcome Sunshine !

Loving you feels like being in in Antarctica or worse, surviving a plane crush and getting stranded amidst snowy mountains like Idris Alba in “The Mountain between Us”!

I am a magnet for emotionally unavailable men. It seems like even if a cold and distant man were to live in a tiny hole in a rock at the bottom of the Indian Ocean, I would somehow find myself attracted to them.

Having a distant father literally turned me into a walking, talking Thompson gazelle in a ravenous pride of lions. Emotionally aloof and distant men smell me in a second and eat me whole.

I have been chasing men who are my father but I just did not realize it. Now that I look back at my chain of endlessly-disappointing past relationships I realize there is one characteristic in common: I always felt strongly for men who were unattainable simply because of how coolly aloof and emotionally cold they were. These types of men made me obsessed and fixated on getting them and if they were to reject me, which was almost always the case, I would cry my heart out in anguish until I got sick the next day.

What I did not know was that my attraction towards them was always a sign that they were representative of my father somehow and that I needed to run the other way instead of pursue.

I wish I had known this earlier, I would have saved myself tons of self-inflicted heartache and sorrow. But too bad I have been too blind to notice how much damage these crushes, attractions and infatuations caused me over the years ; they made me eternally frustrated in love by making me invest and over give in pursuit of men who could never, for one reason or another, return the same level of attention, care and love. Somehow my brain always wanted to work hard for these relationships to last and for these men to accept and love me. I would close my eyes to the most obvious truth- which was that these men simply could not love me back the way I had needed and desperately yearned for. It was as if I was constantly choosing the opposite of what I needed over and over again and closing my heart and mind to real love and connection.

I have not done myself justice. I need to learn to dismiss my attractions. I should differentiate between love and infatuation. An article on huff post put it this way: “You need to distinguish between feelings of infatuation that wash over you and instead realize that love is characterised by actions…”

Wish me good luck !